How to Help Teens Recognize Teen Dating Violence

NPR’s Talk of the Nation ran a segment on teen dating violence called “How to Help Teens Recognize Teen Dating Violence”.The piece discusses some of the barriers teens have to reporting and what adults can do to help. Great segment! Check it out!

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Female perpetration of dating violence on the rise

For the past year, we’ve been seeing a lot of studies and heard  anecdotal claims of females more commonly being the perpetrators of dating violence. This is highly concerning since much off the current focus has been on curbing male perpetration of violence. While these new studies have informed our focus and development, we’ve taken them with a grain of salt since the studies primarily relied on self-reporting or self-disclosure from youth. However, recent local crime stats are confirming what the conclusions drawn from the national studies. See this article from the Gainesville Sun about the rise in female perpetrated crimes.

Given this developing trend, how can we address violence against women AND by women without reinforcing stereotypes or creating new, unhealthy ones? How can we use this as an opportunity for growth? Where’s do you see the silver lining?

LGBT Pride Month

June 29th, President Obama spoke on LGBT issues at the White House for Pride Month. You can read the transcript here or what the video below.

Lohans in court

It’s well known that Lindsay Lohan has had several legal bouts. But did you know her father has also been frequenting the court on his own? Check out this brief article on Michael Lohan’s recent dropped DV charges.

This brings up interesting points on how many times victims drop charges at the last minute or choose not to press charges. What might be some reasons someone would choose not to take their abuser to court? Let’s try to think from a victim’s perspective and avoid any victim blaming. đŸ™‚

What’s the real motivation?

Note: This post has been edited from it’s original form after additional information emerged.

Say what?! Another University of Florida athlete charged with a violent crime? Sigh… why does it seem as if we’re reading about this every six months or so? Andries Dumisane Hlaselo was charged with rape and sexual assault. He was immediately dismissed from the UF track team. Hlaselo was dismissed without much question due to the extremely violent nature of the incident. Kudos for not tolerating this type of violent offense, however, the issues is STILL not being adequately addressed by the Athletic Association since intimate partner violence perpetration continues to be a common issue among athletes.

What I’d really like to see is the athletic association actually doing something proactive rather than this sweep-it-under-the-rug tomfoolery. It wouldn’t cost them anything. All they have to do is make a phone call and Peaceful Paths, the Alachua County Crisis Center, and local law enforcement’s victim advocates would all happily do all educational programming, provide resources and services, and provide referrals for free. No coordination on their part. What I hear from their silence is that it’s not about a game, or teamwork, or any of the other wonderful feel good things we usually think of when we think of team sports. It’s all about profits and image. We’ve got to look good so people continue to monetarily support our teams.

Sadly, I fear this may be the standard rather than the exception. Many universities and colleges have the similar issues. Some get it worse than others (e.g. UVA player Yeardley Love’s murder). Yet many do the same thing to educate their students and hold their athletes accountable… not much. Great strategy. Love the plan. Clearly it’s working and we should keep calm and carry on. Few, such as University of Kentucky, are actively trying to change their school’s climate and social norms. However, this isn’t the norm. THIS is the exception.

If the colleges and universities aren’t taking up the call, where can we go? I think I’ll share this with the alumni association next time they call asking for a donation. My answer is – sure. But first I’d like to see some changes.