On Our Radar

Last week, Radaronline.com reported on exclusive audio of fights and voicemails between Mel Gibson and his ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva. The audio was laced with racist and sexist epithets, threats of rape and assault and justification for a previous violent attack.

What’s this? Mel Gibson spewing hate? Surprise, surprise.

This isn’t Mel’s first public shaming. You may recall his anti-Semitic rant during his 2006 DUI arrest. Or if you missed that, perhaps you caught his homophobic and sexist comments during interviews.  Or maybe you actively avoided his racist/controversial film (Apocalypto, anyone?)? Given his track record of hate, sexism and bigotry HOW is this guy’s career still relatively intact? Check out this interesting critique on The Daily Beast.

If this was anyone else, would we as a society give them so many chances? What sorts ways can we as the general public hold celebrities accountable for their actions?


Case Study: “Love the Way You Lie” by Eminem featuring Rihanna

Whether or not we know it, we are influenced every day by the media.  All day every day we are bombarded by messages through TV, the Internet, the radio, music etc. All of those messages affect us in many ways. We are given information about products that we can buy to make our lives better; shows that we can watch for fun and entertainment; news that we can see to keep us informed about what’s going on in the world, etc. How that information is presented can affect our opinions and attitudes, and eventually our behavior whether consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly. Since the media has such a profound impact and influence on our perceptions and thinking, it’s only reasonable that media also influences our thinking about men, women and relationships.

Popular music is often a great place to take a better look at where these messages are coming from and what they’re saying. Eminem’s work has often been viewed and critiqued as violent and controversial, especially when his songs have profound criticism of society, the music industry or his own personal trials and tribulations. His latest release, “Love the Way You Lie”, is about an unhealthy relationship and is probably not an accident that Rihanna is singing the chorus. However, like many of Eminem’s deeper works, there’s no accompanying dialogue to further explore the messages presented in his song. The general public is left to guess and figure it out all on their own. So, take a look. What are your thoughts? What sorts of messages is it sending?

“Love the Way You Lie” Lyrics by Eminem Featuring Rihanna are below.

[Chorus – Rihanna]
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that’s all right because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well that’s all right because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

[Eminem – Verse 1]
I can’t tell you what it really is, I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now it’s a steel knife in my windpipe
I can’t breathe but I still fight while I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right it’s like I’m in flight
High off her love, drunk from my hate, it’s like I’m huffin’ paint
And I love it the more I suffer, I suffocate
And right before I’m about to drown, she resuscitates me, she fuckin’ hates me
And I love it, “wait, where you goin’?”
“I’m leavin’ you,” “no you ain’t come back”
We’re runnin’ right back, here we go again
So insane, cause when it’s goin’ good it’s goin’ great
I’m superman with the wind in his back, she’s Lois Lane
But when it’s bad it’s awful, I feel so ashamed I snap
Whose that dude? I don’t even know his name
I laid hands on her
I never stoop so low again
I guess I don’t know my own strength


[Eminem – Verse 2]
You ever love somebody so much you can barely breathe
When you with em you meet and neither one of you even know what hit em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills used to get em
Now you’re getting fuckin’ sick of lookin’ at em
You swore you’d never hit em, never do nothin’ to hurt em
Now you’re in each other’s face spewin’ venom in your words when you spit em
You push pull each other’s hair
Scratch claw hit em throw em down pin em
So lost in the moments when you’re in em
It’s the face that’s the culprit, controls you both
So they say it’s best to go your seperate ways
Guess that they don’t know ya
Cause today that was yesterday
Yesterday is over, it’s a different day
Sound like broken records playin’ over
But you promised her next time you’ll show restraint
You don’t get another chance
Life is no nintendo game, but you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave out the window
Guess that’s why they call it window pane


[Eminem – Verse 3]
Now I know we said things, did things, that we didn’t mean
And we fall back into the same patterns, same routine
But your temper’s just as bad as mine is, you’re the same as me
When it comes to love you’re just as blinded
Baby please come back, it wasn’t you, baby it was me
Maybe our relationship isn’t as crazy as it seems
Maybe that’s what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is I love you too much to walk away though
Come inside, pick up the bags off the sidewalk
Don’t you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk?
Told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball
Next time I’m pissed I’ll aim my fist at the drywall
Next time there won’t be no next time
I apologize even though I know it’s lies
I’m tired of the games I just want her back
I know I’m a liar if she ever tries to fuckin’ leave again
I’ma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire


“Love the Way You Lie” is featured on Eminem’s latest album, ‘Recovery’.